Public Affair... Week 7 Blog

I was sitting at my computer a week ago and I was on Skype talking to my boyfriend. In the instant messaging side, another item popped up. I thought someone else was talking to me but it ended up being an advertisement. The advertisement was along the lines of this: “Are you married and wanting to have an affair? Well, you can. Just be sneaky and it’s okay. You won’t get caught.” Now that is a summary but basically that is what I found and I have to say that I was surprised about what I found. It was very discouraging to think how society is so accepting of something that is very hurtful to people. This was very upsetting to me because of what I have believed in my whole life. I think that once a couple gets married, it is for life. I believe in being faithful and committed in a relationship because that is what makes a relationship successful. Things are bad enough in society today and people are being tempted all of the time by everyday things. There is no need for advertisements that shout unfaithfulness and selfishness at the top of their lungs. Having an affair is being advertised for this excitement. It says you won’t get caught and yet, most of the time, people do. It usually doesn’t end well for one person or the other. Also, I realized that our society is so focused on fun. It emphasizes that people need to do things that feel right and to act now. However, impulses aren’t always the answer. I don’t think that it feels right to hurt someone and go behind their back to do something sneaky.

I was shocked to see this public affair advertised and I have to say that it really upset me. I couldn’t believe that the society we live in today would encourage something along these lines. :(

My Expression :) Week 6!

When it comes to expressing how I feel verbally, I can. It isn’t that hard to do. But in certain situations, I can’t do it. I fumble through my words and say things that I don’t mean to say when I am in a tough situation. I saw this happen when I was discussing something with my boyfriend, Justin. We were having a serious discussion and I responded with something that I really didn’t mean to say. It was one of those situations where it just came out wrong but what I had said really hurt his feelings. I tried explaining what I really meant and it still wouldn’t come out right. Here is where I fumbled. It was like: Open mouth, insert foot.

After we hung out, I came home and went to my room. I got out a notebook and just started writing. I wrote about 2 pages worth of what I really meant. My hand was cramping and I was writing so feverishly but the words flowed when I was writing. I knew what i was trying to say and it was so easy to have my feelings out on paper. I gave this letter to him and it cleared everything up. It was more than just fixing something that I said. It meant so much to him that I had taken the time to really write out my feelings and my thought process.

I really made me think about how much writing impacts people. Hearing someone say something gets the point across but seeing it written, in my opinion, means so much more.

:)

Some think Valentine's Day is overrated... Week 5

When February hits, we all begin to see the pinks, reds, hearts, and cupids being plastered all over the place. Valentine’s Day is something that is impossible to forget due to the advertising and rise in prices for flowers, chocolates, and items that represent Valentine’s Day as we know it. This holiday causes hurt feelings for some people and goo-goo eyes for others. I was driving home from class today and I heard on the radio that someone called in because this station was just playing all love songs for the concept of this lovey-dovey day. The young girl said something along the lines of how not everyone likes Valentine’s Day and the music isn’t helping. After that, the song that came on was, “Love Stinks.” Personally, I think that if they don’t want to hear love music, change the channel? I know that this holiday brings heartbreak to some but it ruins it for other people when they put a damper on everything. I am not picking on people but I am just saying that this holiday is here to stay so we all might as well make the best of it. Not only though do spirits get dampened but looking on a different perspective, it is just an excuse to charge people an arm and a leg for flowers, chocolate, greeting cards, etc. I do agree with this which is why my boyfriend and I just do simple things for Valentine’s Day like going out for dinner because many things are simply impractical and overrated. In my opinion, many people just wait to show how they feel until Valentine’s Day but they should be showing their loved ones how much they care everyday. I think this is a contributing factor to why people make such big deal out of it. Personally, I tend to agree that Valentine’s Day can be slightly overrated...

My Arguing :/ Week 4!

Before I came into this class I was definitely a little worried about how I was going to be doing. In nature, I am the type that hates to argue. I will stand up for what I believe but only when I really feel threatened. I am a peace keeper and the type that cries when people yell (I am not joking :P). I think this class is really going to help me in learning how to defend myself in a positive way. I am still not sure how I am going to do in this class but I am definitely ready for a challenge. I want to be able to provide an effective argument and in some cases, change peoples’ minds or at least, allow them to stop and think about what I am saying. We talked about this concept last class period and it really made me think. In some situations, you will not win over your audience that is against you but you may be able to allow them to think about something from a different viewpoint. This is my goal.

I am also concerned with finding sources for this type of writing. I don’t want to pick bias sources but instead, I really want to hit the jackpot in finding accurate and persuasive sources. This has been a struggle of mine and I really want to improve so that I can become a better writer since writing is something I really love. I can’t wait to see what the second of this half will be like when I am finally able to apply all of the new things I have learned. :)